For those who avoid intimate relationships and friendships for fear that, were others to know them, they would discover "the terrible truth", whose fear of rejection, based on past life or childhood trauma, is so intense that they hide their feelings and needs behind a front of self-sufficiency and never allow anyone close to them, who suffer from a profound sense of shame and a terror of vulnerability. This essence gives one the courage to risk emotional contact, to allow others "in", to heal and to rejoin the human family.