Excerpt from the June 2010 Newsletter
I have been thinking a lot lately about the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, a book that I read and recommended in the summer 2002 newsletter. They seem so simple, these Four Agreements. Yet we can easily lose sight of this simplicity and when we do our lives become more complicated and less enjoyable.
Here is a short summary of the Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing; ISBN 1878424319):
Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
To me, the key to the Four Agreements is communication: clear, honest, heartfelt. Lack of communication or inability to communicate are at the center of many of our day to day difficulties. Here are some essences that can help.
Beyond Words (Alaskan combination) improves your ability to think and articulate from both the mind and heart.
Relationship Essence (Australian Bush combination) helps verbalise, express feelings and improve communication.
Communication (Crystal Energy combination) facilitates communication on all levels, the courage to tell the truth, the ability to listen, as well as to say what needs to be said in a manner than can be heard.
Chakra 5 (Terre & Cosmos) balances and harmonizes the throat chakra which is the centre of communication and inspiration.
Complexe 9 - Unité familiale (Deva combination) encourages communication, understanding and expression of deep feelings within groups or families.
Cosmos (Green Hope Farm) helps us speak our truth, opens and aligns heart and throat chakras; and Snapdragon (Green Hope Farm) encourages restraint when we talk too much or too aggressively. These two essences are also available from Deva and South African.
Bluebell (Pacific) opens the channels of communication, alleviates fear of expressing ourselves and being judged. Wallflower (Pacific) dispels that sense of hopelessness which is often experienced when we can’t find the right means to make ourselves understood.
Lettuce (Spirit in Nature/Master’s) brings inner calm, clarity, and the ability to speak one’s truth.
Owl (Wild Earth Animal) encourages clarity of mind, intuition, and seeing and speaking the truth.