Winning by quitting
A good friend recently described her divorce after 30 years of marriage as winning by quitting. The expression made me smile but nonetheless rang true. How often do we keep trying to hold on to something, to make it work when it clearly isn’t. Sometimes it is better to walk away from a situation even if it means giving up some perceived advantage (money, security, status etc).
It takes courage to admit that something (or someone) is not right for you, or is no longer right for you. It is not easy to break out of old patterns and choose to do what is in your best and highest interest. By choosing to ignore your intuition, by not respecting yourself and your needs, you gain nothing and you may be losing more than you realise.
Winning by quitting can also be accepting a situation that you cannot change with all the good will in the world. It can be deciding to rid yourself of some bad habit or addiction (like smoking or drinking). It can be choosing to stop fighting with your neighbour/colleague/family and to forgive everyone, including yourself. In short in quitting (removing yourself from toxic situations) you win the opportunity to be your highest and best self.
As always there are lots of essences that can help you to win by quitting. Below are a few examples from several essence ranges:
Among the Australian Bush flowers: Five Corners and Sturt Desert Rose will give you confidence in yourself and help eliminate self-sabotaging behaviour, while Bottlebrush will help you accept change.
In the Alaskan range Hairy Butterwort and Bog Rosemary help you listen to and trust your inner guidance and support when faced with a challenging situation or life lesson and Glacier River will help up accept change.
In the Crystal Energy Essences range Diamond is useful when you have important decisions to make. It helps you see clearly, it shines light on any truths that you may be avoiding or illusions that you are holding on to. Ametrine, which is a combination of citrine and amethyst, helps you banish your fears so that you can follow a new path in life.
Among the Deva essences the combination Evolution says it all: during periods of change and transformation, it helps you stay centred and facing the future with courage and confidence.
Green Hope Farm has two combination essences that are very appropriate to our theme: All Ego Contracts Null and Void helps you release old habits, old patterns of behaviour and old ego choices that no longer serve you, while To Thine Own Self Be True helps you understand who you really are, and then supports you in being that person.
Pacific Essences offers the combination essence Being True Worth which helps you acknowledge and accept your strengths and weaknesses; while acknowledging and accepting the strengths and weaknesses of others. One of my favourite essences is Fuchsia – it is an essence of “re-creation”; it helps you let go of dysfunctional patterns so that you can be the change you wish to see in the world. Surfgrass offers courage and strength to achieve your goals.
And finally in the animal kingdom with the Wild Earth Animal Essences Owl helps you see through your darkness to confer clarity so that you can access and act upon your highest wisdom. Lion helps you claim your deepest personal authority and spiritual power, with courage, and fearlessness. Finally and perhaps most importantly Loving Yourself helps you accept, love and care for yourself, just the way you are.